In this podcast, they discuss the elusive myth of closure in relationships and friendships. They explore the idea of finding closure within ourselves rather than relying on others. The speaker provides tips for achieving emotional closure and discusses the importance of accountability and self-reflection. They also mention memory flare-ups and the anniversary effect, reassuring listeners that these thoughts are normal. Overall, the podcast offers insights and strategies for moving on and letting go of negative emotions.
Closure can be found within ourselves through mindset shifts, facing negative emotions, accepting memory flare-ups, taking accountability, and engaging in a cathartic release exercise.
Relying on someone else to provide closure can be challenging and may not yield the desired results. Closure is personal and unique to each individual, making it difficult for someone else to meet those specific needs.
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Closure: Finding Peace and Moving On
In this episode, the concept of closure is discussed and explored, particularly in relationships and friendships. Closure is seen as the need to make sense of a situation and have a solid conclusion. While it is natural to seek closure, relying on another person to provide it is often unrealistic. The speaker emphasizes that closure can be found within ourselves through mindset shifts, facing negative emotions, accepting memory flare-ups, taking accountability, and engaging in a cathartic release exercise. It is important to understand that closure does not necessarily mean getting answers from someone else, but rather finding inner peace and moving forward.
Why Relying on Others for Closure Isn't Always Effective
Relying on someone else to provide closure can be challenging and may not yield the desired results. Closure is personal and unique to each individual, making it difficult for someone else to meet those specific needs. Additionally, expecting closure from the person who caused pain or disappointment may not be realistic or productive. Seeking closure from someone who hurt us may only prolong our healing process. It is essential to recognize that closure can be achieved through our own introspection and self-reflection, without relying on external sources.
The Role of Mindset in Finding Closure
Changing our mindset is crucial in finding closure. Instead of viewing the end of a relationship as a negative event, shifting our perspective to see it as an opportunity for growth and new beginnings can aid in the closure process. By reframing our thoughts and focusing on the lessons learned and the positive aspects, we can find closure within ourselves and move forward with greater strength and resilience.
Finding Closure Through Self-Forgiveness and Letting Go
Closure can be attained through self-forgiveness and the release of guilt and pain. Writing a letter to the person involved, expressing emotions and thoughts, can be a cathartic exercise. Burning or discarding the letter symbolizes a cleansing and release of emotional attachment. Additionally, writing a letter to oneself, focusing on self-healing and growth, can provide closure and serve as a reminder of personal progress. Ultimately, closure comes from within, and embracing the healing process is essential to finding peace and moving on.
The end of a relationship or a friendship can leave us with a lot of unanswered questions, especially when the split is sudden, out of the blue, and the other person is unresponsive. In other instances, we don't quite know what went wrong and are looking for answers. In today's episode we talk about the elusive myth that is closure: whether we need it, how to get it, and why we should not rely on others to provide us with permission to move on. We also discuss the closure cycle and the reasons we may THINK we are looking for closure, but are really looking for an excuse to reconnect. All of that and more, listen now!