In this episode, the hosts discuss how we are easily influenced and the psychology of gaslighting, providing insights on how to protect ourselves. They explore the impact of our social environment on our perception and beliefs, as well as the power of verbal rehearsal and external sources in shaping our reality.
Gaslighting takes advantage of humans' tendency to trust and believe others, leading us to question our own perceptions and reality.
Without the ability to cross-reference or seek perspective from others, individuals may have a skewed view of reality, highlighting the importance of multiple perspectives and varied sources of information.
Deep dives
Gaslighting and the Influence of Social Consensus
Gaslighting is a deliberate strategy that takes advantage of the influence of social consensus. Humans often believe what others say, leading us to question our own perceptions or facts. Verbal rehearsal plays a crucial role in changing beliefs, not just externally but also internally. When people around us, media, and other sources consistently reinforce a particular view, it becomes ingrained in our memory and shapes what we consider true. This mechanism can be exploited for ill intent, causing individuals to question their own reality in interpersonal relationships.
The Danger of Singular Influence and Lack of Perspective
In situations where individuals are unable or unwilling to consult multiple sources, a single individual can have a profound impact on their set of beliefs. This becomes particularly dangerous when discussing sensitive or potentially shameful topics, where people may want to believe an alternative interpretation offered by someone with an ulterior motive. Without the ability to cross-reference or seek perspective from others, individuals may be left with a skewed view of reality. This highlights the importance of multiple perspectives and varied sources of information in forming accurate beliefs.
We might feel like we’ve been duped when we believe a lie someone has told us, and we may want to crawl into a hole when we share “fake news” on Facebook. But in actuality, we have evolved to trust vs. to question, which is why our tendency toward credulity is easily taken advantage of.
In this edition of Two Guys on Your Head, Dr. Art Markman and Dr. Bob Duke talk about the psychology of what is known as “gaslighting” and how to put checks in place so you are less susceptible to being taken for a ride.