Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

499 - Post-Nonmonogamy: Navigating Life After Polyamory with Andrea Zanin

Oct 1, 2024

Andrea Zanin, a writer specializing in queer sex and nonmonogamy, dives into the nuances of life after polyamory. They highlight the complexities of evolving identities and the journey from non-monogamy to solitude, emphasizing personal growth and relationship dynamics. Zanin explores how societal perceptions affect personal choices and the importance of embracing solitude as a fulfilling option. They discuss the impact of non-monogamous experiences on future relationships, showcasing how open communication fosters understanding and growth.

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Andrea Zanin

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Quick takeaways

Embracing solitude can enhance personal decision-making, transforming how individuals engage with relationships and their chosen lifestyles.

Post-non-monogamy reflects an evolution in relationship practices, allowing people to grow from previous experiences without rejecting non-monogamous philosophies.

Skills gained from non-monogamous relationships, such as effective communication and self-awareness, positively influence various aspects of life beyond romantic partnerships.

Deep dives

Embracing Solitude for Personal Growth

Learning to be alone and embracing solitude is essential for enriching one's life and improving decision-making. Acknowledging the discomfort of solitude can change the approach to relationships, hobbies, and choices, shifting from filling voids with distractions to making more intentional selections in life. Building solitude as a skill empowers individuals to navigate unexpected moments of isolation, making them better equipped to handle life's uncertainties. Embracing this skill enriches one's perspective and fosters a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Intro

2min

Evolving Identities: The Post-Nonmonogamous Journey

14min

Navigating Life After Nonmonogamy

6min

Understanding Solitude and Relationship Dynamics

15min

Building Community and Celebrating Talents

4min

The Impact of Non-Monogamy on Relationships

18min

Today we're joined by writer Andrea Zanin to talk about their upcoming books. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a white, nonbinary, middle-aged queer whose writing focuses on queer sex, nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. They have written for the Globe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections, and they are the author of Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond and, with Eve Rickert, the co-author of More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity. Andrea blogs sporadically at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the ten rules for happy nonmonogamy and coined the term “polynormativity.”

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