I Could Never... Let's Call It What It Is
Oct 16, 2025
Comedian Lily Kerrigan dives into her journey through polyamory, sharing insights on the complexities of non-monogamous relationships. She discusses her transition from a traditional relationship to a thriving nine-year partnership with Matt, revealing how casual dating evolved into something deeper. Lily tackles the intricacies of managing emotions, labeling relationships, and the significance of open communication. With practical advice on navigating jealousy and metamour dynamics, she offers a fresh perspective on love, connection, and emotional transparency.
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Breakup Rebound Turned Long-Term Partner
- Lily left an alcoholic partner at 23 after he asked her to be monogamous to get sober.
- She then aimed to sleep with three cast members and ended up with Matt, who became her nine-year partner.
Labels Need Practical Definitions
- Labels like 'open' or 'poly' never tell the whole story without concrete practices.
- Lily emphasizes explaining what your label practically means to avoid mismatched expectations.
Create Positive Rituals Around Dates
- Turn other-dating times into positive experiences for yourself instead of waiting to suffer.
- Create rituals and small rewards (like treats or a read-together ritual) to build positive associations.