Ep. 174: When it's Hard to Keep Offering Connection
Apr 16, 2024
Discover the struggle of maintaining connection with a child who's resistant to it. Shift your focus away from them and think about who can support you instead. Explore the importance of self-connection and nurturing relationships with others. Learn practical strategies for fostering connections amid dysregulation. Mindfulness and self-compassion play crucial roles in this journey, while unexpected lessons, like glitter boots, reveal how giving and receiving connection can be deeply interlinked.
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Dysregulation and Connection
Chronically dysregulated individuals struggle with mutual serve and return in relationships.
This difficulty stems from their protective mode, hindering connection and creating an imbalanced relational rhythm.
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Shifting Focus
If offering connection feels impossible, shift your focus.
Ask yourself: Who can offer you connection, how can you connect with yourself, and who can reciprocate connection?
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Finding Safe Connections
Seek out safe individuals with whom you can be authentic, without getting stuck in negativity.
Find people who validate your feelings but also help you move towards connection mode.
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I’m sure you’ve had moments (days, weeks, months) where it felt hard, maybe even impossible, to keep offering connection to your child.
It is hard to offer connection to someone who seems to constantly reject it!
If it feels hard to keep offering your child connection, I actually want you to shift your focus. Don’t prioritize offering connection to your child. Instead think about:
Who can offer YOU connection?
How can you offer connection to yourself?
Who could you offer connection to who is able to receive it, and offer connection back?
You’ll also learn how glitter boots are related to giving and receiving connection!
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