The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 174: When it's Hard to Keep Offering Connection

Apr 16, 2024
Discover the struggle of maintaining connection with a child who's resistant to it. Shift your focus away from them and think about who can support you instead. Explore the importance of self-connection and nurturing relationships with others. Learn practical strategies for fostering connections amid dysregulation. Mindfulness and self-compassion play crucial roles in this journey, while unexpected lessons, like glitter boots, reveal how giving and receiving connection can be deeply interlinked.
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INSIGHT

Dysregulation and Connection

  • Chronically dysregulated individuals struggle with mutual serve and return in relationships.
  • This difficulty stems from their protective mode, hindering connection and creating an imbalanced relational rhythm.
ADVICE

Shifting Focus

  • If offering connection feels impossible, shift your focus.
  • Ask yourself: Who can offer you connection, how can you connect with yourself, and who can reciprocate connection?
ADVICE

Finding Safe Connections

  • Seek out safe individuals with whom you can be authentic, without getting stuck in negativity.
  • Find people who validate your feelings but also help you move towards connection mode.
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