Judy Apps, a speaking and voice coach and communication author, dives into the lost art of conversation. She highlights how meaningful connections start with simple dialogue and grow through various stages. Judy shares techniques to bring energy to your interactions and two exercises to help dispel self-consciousness. She emphasizes that conversation is both a playful game and an intimate dance, encouraging listeners to embrace its dynamic nature for deeper connections.
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Starting Conversations
Start conversations with simple, unthreatening topics like the weather or surroundings.
Gradually shift to personal questions, using follow-up questions to keep the exchange flowing.
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Building Rapport Over Time
Deep conversations don't always happen in the initial interaction.
Conversations can develop over multiple encounters, gradually increasing in depth.
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Projecting Positive Energy
Overcome self-consciousness by focusing on external senses.
Cultivate a positive emotional state by recalling enjoyable experiences.
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How do you form a meaningful connection with another person? Well, it starts with simply opening your mouth. From there, my guest says, you want to progress through a conversation, or perhaps a series of conversations, in a particular sequence of stages that will form an effective on-ramp towards a stronger relationship.
Her name is Judy Apps, she's a speaking and voice coach and the author of several books on communication, includingThe Art of Conversation. Today Judy and I discuss that art, beginning with why it's so important to learn. We then get into the different levels a conversation should progress through in order to build intimacy and smoothly segue into discussing the things that matter most. Judy explains how to bring the kind of energy to a conversation that creates connection, and two exercises you can use to overcome the self-consciousness that can thwart that energy. Along the way, we discuss how conversation is both a game that you can have fun practicing, and a dance that can flow into some of life's most magical moments.
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