Ep #98: Moving Beyond Type 1's Patterns w/ David Thomas
Aug 22, 2023
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David Thomas, Founder of Raising Boys and Girls and Daystar Counseling, joins the show to discuss how Type 1 individuals can incorporate tools from other types, such as Type 4 and Type 7, to move beyond their core type patterns. The podcast covers topics like dealing with the inner critic, reflecting on student experiences, exploring relationship behaviors, navigating sadness and embracing uncertainty, and the power of grace in Enneagram teachings.
David Thomas incorporates tools from Type 4 and Type 7 to help Type 1s move beyond their core type patterns
David Thomas embraces the positive aspects of Type 4, such as empathy and compassionate reframing
David Thomas utilizes the high side of Type 7 to let go of perfectionism, criticism, and bring light-heartedness and fun into his life and relationships
Deep dives
David Thomas's Journey as a Therapist
David Thomas describes his early experiences as a camp counselor, where he found that children often confided in him about challenging family situations. This sparked a desire in him to pursue a career in counseling and create a safe space for others. He also reflects on how his oneness, characterized by a sense of integrity and a desire to do good, fuels his passion for helping others in his counseling ministry.
Incorporating Type Four Tools during Low Points
David Thomas shares that during low moments, he can sometimes spiral into a space of despair and inner criticism. However, he has learned to access the high side of type four, allowing him to sit with pain and engage in healthy reframing. He embraces the ability to empathize with others and develop compassion, demonstrating the positive aspects of type four.
The Transformative Power of Type Seven
David Thomas expresses his enthusiasm for accessing the high side of type seven. He describes how this movement brings light-heartedness, reframing, and a capacity for fun and adventure. Through this movement, he is able to let go of perfectionism and criticism, creating a more empathetic and compassionate approach to himself and his relationships.
The Influence of Jesus and Faith
David Thomas highlights the impact of Jesus and his teachings on his approach to relationships. He emphasizes that Jesus's love, empathy, and compassion serve as a model for his own interactions. He shares his belief in the importance of extending grace to oneself and others, and how it aligns with the teachings of Jesus.
Challenges and Growth: Extending Grace to Oneself
David Thomas acknowledges the ongoing challenge of extending grace to oneself as a type one. He emphasizes the necessity of practicing self-compassion and accepting that good enough is truly great. By allowing room for imperfection, ones can develop the ability to extend grace and empathy to others as well.
In this episode, Jesse and Lindsey talk about how Type 1s can move beyond their core type patterns by incorporating tools from Type 4 and Type 7. David Thomas, Founder of Raising Boys and Girls and Daystar Counseling, joins the show and shares how he came to realize he was a Type 1 and the ways he uses tools from other types in his life and counseling practice.