Someday, Now: Grief Doesn’t End, It Evolves with Tembi Locke

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me.

We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily.

We dive into:

• How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends

• The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss

• What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving

• The best ways to support a child on the grief journey  

• The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone

• Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it

• What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short

• How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations

• What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss

What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you.

Want more from Tembi?

Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website.

Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn.

And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into my Good Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss.

If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.

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