Pillow Talks

E226: Foreplay Frustrations: How to Get More (and Better) Foreplay

Sep 18, 2025
Many crave more foreplay, often feeling it's too routine or brief. Discover why redefining foreplay can enhance intimacy and enjoyment, especially for women's pleasure. Learn tips on how to communicate desires without hurting feelings. Explore diverse types of foreplay, from sensory play to choreplay, and uncover ideas for breaking out of a foreplay rut. Listen in for strategies to handle mismatched desires and how to discuss fantasies comfortably. Foreplay is not just a warm-up; it can be a thrilling part of your sex life!
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INSIGHT

Foreplay Isn't Just A Warm-Up

  • The hosts reject the term "foreplay" because it implies a lesser, preparatory role before a "main event."
  • Vanessa says all sexual activities count equally and should be valued for the pleasure they provide.
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Foreplay Drives Most Women's Orgasms

  • Most women are far more likely to orgasm from foreplay than from intercourse alone.
  • The hosts argue this elevates foreplay from optional to central for female pleasure.
ADVICE

Use The Episode As A Conversation Starter

  • Play this episode or share it with your partner to teach them why foreplay matters and start a conversation together.
  • Treat foreplay as fun and exciting rather than a burdensome chore.
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