Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 148 - Your Narcissistic Ex (Is Probably Not a Narcissist)
Dec 5, 2017
The discussion delves into the popular trend of labeling ex-partners as narcissists, examining how this term has evolved in society. Personal anecdotes highlight the need for deeper understanding rather than casual diagnoses. The podcast explores the myth of Narcissus, illustrating its relevance in modern relationships. It emphasizes the spectrum of narcissism, distinguishing between healthy self-interest and pathological traits. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their breakup narratives and the implications of how we talk about relationships.
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Rise of 'Narcissist' Term in 90s
- The terms "narcissist" and "codependent" surged in popularity during the 90s in psychology discourse.
- Around 1995, use of "codependent" declined while "narcissist" soared, indicating a cultural shift in relationship discussions.
Narcissism Exists on Spectrum
- Narcissism ranges on a spectrum from healthy self-esteem to pathological disorders.
- Traits like confidence and emotional resilience can be positive, while extreme behaviors indicate Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Label Use Can Empower or Excuse
- Calling exes narcissists can validate some experiences but also remove personal responsibility.
- This duality reflects how labels can both heal and hinder relationship understanding.