Black British Culture, Growing Up With African Parents & Men's Mental Health - Tobi Oke | EP 125

Join Mr. Money Jar and Tobi Oke, a successful content creator who built an £800k candle company, for a deep dive into Black British identity and the meaning of legacy.

Tobi shares his journey from quitting law to entrepreneurship, his Nigerian upbringing, and the cultural pressure to pursue traditional careers. The discussion tackles the "sound white" stereotype and the pigeonholing of Black men, linking it to broader issues of identity and the need for diversity in media. Tobi also speaks candidly about his Bipolar diagnosis and the importance of men's mental health. Ultimately, they define legacy as economic, social, physical and educational wealth passed through generations.

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TIMESTAMPS

0:00 Welcome & Introducing Content Creator Tobi

0:47 Tobi's Background, Clarity, and Content Platforms (TikTok, YouTube, Instagram)

2:29 Business & Finance: The £800k Candle Company Story (Fentons)

2:38 Quitting Law School and the Genesis of the Candle Business in 2017

5:56 The 4 Signature Scents: Sandalin Piper, Cedrris Leaf, Arabica, & Flossum

6:28 £800k Revenue & How COVID-19 and Force Majeure Ended the Business

6:58 Selling Clothes on Vinted & The Joy of Quick Cash

7:31 The Nigerian Career Trap: Why Did Our Parents Force Law on Us?

8:10 Education as Bragging Rights: The "Do They Have Two Heads?" Mentality

10:27 The Enterprising Element of Nigerian Culture

11:27 What is a Nigerian "Almond Mum"? (High Fiber & Healthy Doctoring)

14:24 My Father's Legacy: Coping with Motor Neuron Disease

16:18 Financial Lessons from Parents: "Always Be The Lender & Never The Borrower"

18:28 The Asset Classes I Learned About Growing Up (Cash & Property)

19:43 Yoruba vs. Urhobo Culture, Food, and Language Differences

23:43 Is There Such A Thing As Black British Culture? (A Feeling & Shared Experience)

28:59 The "Coconut" Insult & Why I Hate The "Sound White" Stereotype

31:29 Pigeonholing Black Men: Why There are Less Things We're Allowed to Be

32:39 Our Parallel Journeys with Accents and Identity

35:01 The South African Gay Algorithm & Receiving Graphic AI-Doctored Images

41:01 Safeguarding Mental Health from the "Racist Troll Brigade"

41:49 My Bipolar Diagnosis & The Day I Tried to End My Life at Tower BridgE

45:35 The Journey to Finding the Right Medication (Chemical Imbalance)

46:48 My Experience with Depression at University

48:17 The Sad Truth About Men's Mental Health Messages ("I'm So Sorry, I'm a Loser")

49:43 Prostate Cancer UK's Racist Ad Backlash: The Need for Black Consultation

52:33 The History of Microaggressions in Advertising (Sanex & Soap Commercials)

54:38 Final Question: What Does Black Wealth Mean To You? (Legacy)

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