Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, trauma expert, and author of 'Polysecure,' shares her insights on navigating attachment and non-monogamy. She discusses the joys and challenges within polyamorous family dynamics and emphasizes personal growth through self-reflection. Fern introduces her upcoming book 'Poly Wise' and highlights initiatives like therapist training aimed at enhancing understanding of secure attachment in non-monogamous relationships. Her perspective enriches the conversation on relationship anarchy and offers valuable resources for anyone exploring their relational identities.
Jessica Fern emphasizes the importance of navigating love and difficult conversations within polyamorous relationships, reflecting real-life complexities even educators face.
Her new workbook, Polysecure, offers practical exercises for individuals and couples to cultivate secure attachments, addressing personal challenges in relationship dynamics.
Deep dives
Update on Personal and Professional Life
Jessica Fern shares her recent developments, including her move to Asheville, North Carolina, where she lives with her polycule. She discusses how her familial relationships continue to evolve, emphasizing the importance of navigating both love and difficult conversations within her polyamorous setup. This personal journey is reflective of the challenges that many face in building and sustaining ethical non-monogamous relationships, illustrating that even educators and authors experience these complexities. Jessica notes that her work is motivated by the real-life struggles she encounters, reinforcing the importance of addressing personal challenges in her professional advice.
The Release and Reception of the Polysecure Workbook
Jessica discusses the release of her workbook, which serves as a companion to her earlier book, Polysecure, based on extensive requests from readers who wanted to delve deeper into the concepts she introduced. The workbook is structured to align with the chapters of Polysecure, providing exercises and reflection questions aimed at helping individuals and couples navigate their relationship dynamics. Feedback has been positive, with readers appreciating the practical guidance it offers, although some content may touch on challenging aspects of self-reflection. The goal of the workbook is to provide a roadmap for users to cultivate secure attachments in their relationships.
Insights into Future Projects and Challenges of Non-Monogamy
Looking ahead, Jessica is working on her upcoming book, Polywise, which will address various challenges people face in non-monogamous relationships beyond attachment theory. She identifies issues such as codependency, relationship transitions, and the complexities of paradigm shifts as crucial themes that will be explored in the new book. Aiming to serve a diverse audience, the book will be relevant not only for newly open individuals but also for seasoned practitioners of non-monogamy. Jessica also plans to expand her educational offerings, including a retreat focused on secure attachment, highlighting her commitment to fostering community and understanding within the realm of consensual non-monogamy.
EPISODE 209: Interview with Jessica Fern. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more about Jessica online: https://www.jessicafern.com/https://www.facebook.com/unstuckyourstory/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8M9Tk1-qrhs_ihcc_ooREg/videos If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries
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