Learn how to invest wisely in relationships and distinguish between investing and chasing in dating.
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The importance of investing in those who invest in you, as a great relationship involves mutual investment and energy.
Effective communication is crucial in dating to convey interest and liking, while chasing indicates low self-worth and putting someone on a pedestal.
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Invest in Those Who Invest in You
The central problem in relationships is that people tend to invest based on how much they like someone, rather than how much the other person is investing in them. The speaker emphasizes the importance of investing in those who invest in you. However, this can lead to a standoff where both parties wait for the other to make the first move. To address this, the speaker suggests a principle of investing and then testing. This involves giving a little and observing if the other person reciprocates. For example, starting a conversation with someone at a coffee shop, or paying attention to their level of engagement in texting. The key is to assess whether the investment from both parties is equal.
Communication vs. Chasing
In dating, there is often a lack of communication but an excess of chasing. The speaker advocates for effective communicating to convey interest and liking to the other person. This can be expressed through compliments, expressing attraction, or suggesting future plans. However, chasing is viewed as investing in someone who is not reciprocating the attention or energy. Chasing indicates low self-worth and putting someone on a pedestal. The speaker emphasizes the importance of investing a little to test the other person's response and only continuing to invest in those who invest in you, as a great relationship involves mutual investment and energy.
Have you ever wondered what the right amount of effort to put in with someone is? Should you let them know you’d like to go on a date with them? And what about after the date. . . Should you let them know you’d like to see them again if you felt the date went well but they're not being proactive about setting up another one? Where is the line between showing someone you like them, and chasing someone who’s simply not that interested? It can be tricky. But I want to make it simple. You may have heard me say, “Invest in those who invest in you.” But that could leave you wondering to yourself: “Fine Matthew, but so often that means I’m doing nothing because no one is investing in me! And doesn’t someone need to take the first step to invest something if anything is ever going to happen?” It’s a valid point. I’ll show you exactly how to solve this at the end of the episode, so make sure you listen all the way through. --- ►► Claim Your FREE TICKET to This World Premiere Event by Pre-Ordering Your Copy of Love Life Now at. . . → http://www.LoveMythsMovie.com
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