S36 E4: "How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting—From Tots to Teens" by Melinda Wenner Moyer
Oct 12, 2023
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Award-winning science journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer explores effective parenting strategies for raising good individuals, including building resiliency in kids by allowing them to fail and emphasizing effort over ability. She also discusses strategies for responding to misbehavior, teaching empathy, and using mediation to promote cooperation during conflicts.
Parents should allow their children to fail and navigate challenges themselves to promote resilience and self-confidence.
When children misbehave, parents should respond with empathy and guidance rather than anger to foster emotional regulation and constructive behavior.
Deep dives
Building Resilience Through Failure and Effort
One important aspect of parenting is allowing children to fail and navigate challenges themselves. When parents overly protect their kids from failure, it can hinder their resilience and self-confidence. Research suggests that children who perceive their parents' help as a sign of incompetence may struggle with feelings of low self-efficacy. By giving kids the opportunity to fail and emphasizing effort over fixed abilities, parents can promote a growth mindset, helping children see challenges as learning opportunities.
Responding to Misbehavior with Empathy and Guidance
When children behave badly, it is essential for parents to respond with empathy rather than anger. Kids often misbehave because they lack the skills to handle situations calmly. Shaming children for having big emotions can lead to difficulties in emotional regulation. Instead, parents should validate their child's feelings and then provide guidance on appropriate behavior. This approach helps children learn from their mistakes and equips them to handle future difficult situations more constructively.
As an award-winning science journalist, Melinda Wenner Moyer was regularly asked to investigate and address all kinds of parenting questions: how to potty train, when and whether to get vaccines, and how to help kids sleep through the night. But as Melinda's children grew, she found that one huge area was ignored in the realm of parenting advice: How do we make sure our kids don't grow up to be assholes?
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