Secrets Of Sex And Marriage (with Dr. Michael Sytsma)
Jul 3, 2023
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Dr. Michael Sytsma discusses the keys to enjoying sex in marriage, addressing differences in sexual desire and unlocking arousal. He emphasizes the importance of mindset, healthy habits, and deep emotional connections for a fulfilling relationship. The podcast explores the complexities of sexual intimacy, clear communication, and accepting your partner for who they are, focusing on building a deeper connection beyond physical satisfaction.
Understanding and respecting varied desires in a relationship is crucial for healthy sexual intimacy.
Setting boundaries for different levels of physical intimacy can enhance communication and deepen emotional connection in a partnership.
Deep dives
Sexual Desire Differences Between Men and Women
Sexual desire can manifest differently between men and women. Men often experience initiating desire, characterized by a sudden craving for sex, while women commonly display receptive desire, where arousal follows engagement in intimate acts. Understanding and respecting these varied desires in a relationship is crucial.
Setting Boundaries for Intimate Touch
Creating boundaries for different levels of physical intimacy such as cuddling, making out, and sex can enhance communication and mutual understanding in a relationship. Respectfully signaling and negotiating these boundaries can foster a deeper connection and promote emotional security within the partnership.
Sex as an Act of Intimacy and Oneness
Viewing sex as an act that symbolizes intimacy and oneness can transform perspectives on sexual relationships. Recognizing the depth and spiritual significance of sexual intimacy beyond physical pleasure is vital for cultivating a fulfilling and lasting connection.
Acceptance and Adaptation in Sexual Relationships
Accepting and adapting to the unique desires and qualities of one's partner is essential for a successful sexual relationship. Grieving unmet expectations and re-envisioning the relationship based on mutual understanding and appreciation can lead to deepening emotional and physical intimacy over time.
"He said at 74, I am having the best sex of my life. At 74, my penis only occasionally shows up for the party. But I am still having the best sex of my life. I wish I had known in my thirties how to have this kind of sex."
What is sex ultimately about? How can married couples enjoy sex more? How do you deal with differences in sexual desire? In this episode, Dr. Michael Sytsma offers a robust theology of sexuality AND clinical wisdom on how to unlock arousal, increase intimacy, and have fun in the bedroom.
Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. He has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and is the founder of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc.