Relationship Advice How Two Therapists Got Into A Fight and How They Repaired
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Dec 1, 2025 Colter and Cayla share a real conflict to illustrate the art of repair in relationships. They explore their comfort levels with tough conversations and reveal their personal protective moves during disagreements. Listeners get a glimpse into their initial tense call that spiraled out of control, followed by a breakdown of how they each processed the conflict. Their journey of reconnection is highlighted as they emphasize values and negotiate compromises, showcasing how to turn misunderstandings into stronger connections.
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Repair Beats Perfect Performance
- Skills reduce harm but don't eliminate discomfort; conflict still triggers anxiety and messiness.
- Repairing after a messy first pass is the key skill, not perfect first responses.
Payroll Call That Blew Up
- Colter explained a payroll disagreement with Cayla about compensation for a service and how timing worsened the exchange.
- Their first phone call became terse and ended with both agreeing to pause and revisit later.
Defensiveness Is Reputation Management
- Defensive moves often try to control others' perceptions when fear of being seen as selfish arises.
- Over-explaining generosity can itself escalate conflict if it reads as self-justification.