213. “We have a $1M trust - but a $30k budget” (Part 1)

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Jun 17, 2025

Dive into the intriguing life of a couple navigating wealth and emotional hurdles. Despite their $2 million net worth, they grapple with a $30,000 income, leading to financial anxiety and lifestyle constraints. Discover their struggles with money conversations and the impact of long COVID on finances. They explore the emotional ties to wealth, contrasting financial management styles, and redefine travel aspirations. The discussion emphasizes the importance of collaboration, trust, and proactive planning for achieving a 'Rich Life'.

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ANECDOTE

Money Shame Impacts Relationship

Kate feels unworthy of her inherited wealth despite having a $1M trust.
Keith worries others think he's only with her for the money, causing tension in their relationship.

ANECDOTE

Handling Inheriting Wealth Challenges

Kate inherited a $1 million trust but feels unprepared to handle the money.
Keith avoids money conversations, fearing judgment about his intentions.

ADVICE

Address Money Talks Directly

Avoid avoiding money talks; unspoken tension leads to defensiveness and conflict.
Open discussions about money build partnership and reduce misunderstandings.

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Kate (45) and Keith (53) split their time between Maine and Hawaii, living what looks like a dream life.

They’ve inherited wealth, run two small businesses, and have nearly $2 million in net worth. But with only $30,000 in annual income, they live in fear of spending—and cover their shortfall by dipping into savings.

Kate, recovering from long COVID, handles the finances but feels unworthy of her money. Keith, who once filed for bankruptcy, avoids money conversations entirely and worries he’ll be seen as a freeloader. Their roles are clear—one over-responsible, one disengaged—and their financial anxiety keeps them stuck.

They say they want to travel, be generous, and enjoy their Rich Life. But, how do you build a Rich Life when you’ve been taught to feel ashamed of the money you have?

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