312: [Soapbox] Measure sexual desire in the middle

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of proactive versus reactive desire in intimate relationships. She delves into how these different types of desires function and the importance of recognizing them. Zimmerman emphasizes not measuring desire at the beginning but rather in the middle, once the 'engine' has warmed up. This shift in perspective can help partners feel more desired and reduce stress around sexual relationships. The episode provides valuable insights for partners dealing with different levels of desire, aiming to improve their intimate connection.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

01:01 Understanding Proactive and Reactive Desire

02:09 The Importance of Feeling Wanted

02:50 Measuring Desire in the Middle

04:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

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Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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