Supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg 1. How to Talk to Anyone
Feb 22, 2025
Nick Epley, a psychology professor at the University of Chicago, explores the power of deep questions in conversations. He shares insights from his research on the Fast Friends procedure, revealing how 36 questions can forge bonds between strangers. Joining him is Mandy Len Catron, a writer known for her viral essay, who recounts her experience using these questions on a date, highlighting their ability to deepen connections. Together, they discuss the art of asking meaningful questions, offering practical tips for fostering intimacy and understanding in everyday interactions.
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Hedge-Fund Room Turned Emotional
- Nick Epley forced hedge-fund executives to pair up and ask a deep question about crying and the room erupted into intense conversation.
- After 20 minutes many were still talking and some left hugging, showing rapid closeness from the exercise.
Parents' Why Questions Changed Behavior
- Nick Epley recounts being lectured after a DUI and later changing after his parents asked probing why questions.
- Those questions prompted his father to share personal mistakes, which shifted Nick's perspective and behavior.
36 Questions Made Strangers Seek Each Other
- The Fast Friends study asked strangers 36 escalating questions for 45 minutes and created lasting connections for many participants.
- About 70% later sought out their partner, with some becoming close friends or even getting married.
