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Chapters 00:00 Introduction & Physical Regulation Moment 01:00 What is ADHD Paralysis? The Traditional View 02:00 The Missing Piece: Fight or Flight 03:00 Executive Dysfunction vs. Dysregulation 04:00 Jenna's Personal Experience with Paralysis 06:00 Understanding the Freeze Response 08:00 Why Forcing Yourself Makes It Worse 11:00 The Alternative: Getting Your Foot Off the Brake 12:00 The Power of "Slow and Steady Wins the Race" 14:00 Practical Steps for Paralysis Moments 16:00 The Overwhelm-Paralysis Pipeline 18:00 Beliefs That Changed Everything
Summary In this episode, I talk about ADHD paralysis and why the mainstream understanding is missing a huge piece. The traditional view says paralysis stems from executive dysfunction, but here's the problem: it doesn't account for the fact that most ADHDers are also in fight or flight. We're dysregulated. When we're in fight-flight-freeze-fawn, so many symptoms of ADHD and dysregulation overlap that we can't tell what's coming from where. The mainstream message assumes it's all coming from your ADHD brain, but my perspective is that yes, we have an ADHD brain and that kicked us into fight or flight - but now so much of what we're dealing with is actually the dysregulation, not the ADHD itself. This is amazing news because you can get out of dysregulation. I share my personal experience: since focusing almost solely on regulation, I haven't experienced paralysis in a year and a half. I break down what's happening in the freeze response - physical symptoms like muscle tension and fatigue, psychological symptoms like dissociation and feeling stuck. Here's the counterintuitive piece: when you feel stuck, you feel like you need to force yourself back into action with urgency, guilt, and shame, but this will not help - it only makes it worse. You might get moving short-term, but it triggers more dysregulation, creating more paralysis. The alternative is to get your foot off the brake - reduce tension and frantic energy. I walk through the importance of physical regulation in paralysis moments (deep breath, drop shoulders, speak out loud "I'm safe"), why belief work like "slow and steady wins the race" is vital, and how to work on the overwhelm-paralysis pipeline. The real question isn't how to force yourself out of paralysis - it's how to heal the dysregulation causing the freeze response.
Action Step This week, when you experience paralysis, notice it objectively with curiosity - not judgment. Ask yourself: is overwhelm present right before the paralysis? They often go together. Instead of forcing yourself with urgency or shame, try the physical regulation approach: take a deep breath, drop your shoulders, slow down. If you're stuck on the couch, say out loud "I'm laying on the couch. I'm safe. It's okay." This might feel counterintuitive when you feel like you should be jumping into action, but remember - the white-knuckling grip is what's causing the freeze. Relaxing that grip is how you eventually stop freezing up. It won't get you unstuck in that second, but if you do this whenever you think of it, you're working on reducing paralysis long-term instead of just forcing yourself through it short-term. And start playing with the belief "slow and steady wins the race" - can you find even a crack in your armor where part of you goes "maybe that's true"?
Takeaways
- ADHD paralysis is often caused by nervous system dysregulation (the freeze response) rather than just executive dysfunction - and freeze is workable through regulation
- The mainstream view blames paralysis on having an ADHD brain, but much of what we're dealing with in adulthood is actually the dysregulation our different brain kicked us into
- Forcing yourself with urgency, guilt, shame, and fear might get you moving short-term, but it makes the paralysis worse long-term by triggering more dysregulation
- The freeze response causes physical symptoms (muscle tension, chronic fatigue, restricted breathing) and psychological symptoms (dissociation, emotional numbness, feeling stuck, hypervigilance)
- Getting out of paralysis requires the opposite of what feels intuitive - you need to reduce tension and frantic energy (get your foot off the brake), not increase it with more force
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