Stop Meltdowns: Help Autistic & ADHD Kids Turn Avoidance into Confidence

Aug 27, 2025

Discover the reasons behind meltdowns and avoidance in autistic and ADHD children. Learn about the innovative 'Doable Approach' that fosters a sense of safety and understanding. Explore how emotional overwhelm affects daily interactions and the importance of empathy. Get practical tips for effective communication that enhances trust and engagement. This conversation provides valuable insights into reducing anxiety and boosting confidence, making everyday tasks feel achievable for neurodivergent kids.

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INSIGHT

What Ifs Turn Fun Into Threat

Neurodivergent kids face piles of 'what ifs' that turn ordinary events into threats.
Avoidance is often a protective response to overwhelming uncertainty and past hurts.

ANECDOTE

Dresser Cleanup That Backfired

Holly recounts being proud of cleaning a dresser top and then being crushed by parental criticism.
That memory illustrates how small wins get erased and reduce a child's confidence.

INSIGHT

Avoidance ≠ Refusal

If a task were truly doable in the moment, the child would likely do it.
Avoidance signals real barriers, not laziness or defiance.

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Ever asked an autistic and/or adhd child to do something “simple” and they had a meltdown or shutdown? Does it seem like they'll do anything to avoid?

In this episode, I'm breaking down the reasons behind the avoidance and I'll introduce you to The Doable Approach. It's my practical, neurodiversity-affirming approach that helps kids feel safe, understood, and capable.

In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why avoidance isn’t refusal ✅ The “invisible stacked blocks” that lead to meltdowns and shutdowns ✅ Practical ways to make tasks and time feel doable ✅ How to support mental health and increase confidence

🌟 This shift decreases anxiety, increases self-awareness and emotional regulation, and makes the impossible possible. Please take a listen and share:)

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About Holly Blanc Moses Holly Blanc Moses is a neurodivergent psychologist, speaker, consultant, continuing education provider and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV and parent masterclasses.