Ask Uncut - 6 Minute Voice Notes, Horny Separations & When Is The Relationship Over?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Laura is in pregnancy hell and she’s in the pregnancy insomnia stage. She’s also so sleep deprived that she’s forgetting the stories she’s told us.

Vibes for the week:

Britt - The Better Sister 

Laura -Artists Jesse Cleay and Ella Martin  

Keeshia - Monte Mader Flipping Tables Podcast - The Downfall Of Dogma

Then we jump into your questions!

SEPARATED BUT I NEED SEX - DO I GO THE APPS?! - DON’T WANT EX TO KNOW
My husband and I separated in march, we had been together 12 years and married for 7 with 2 kids under 5. It hasn’t been amicable and to be honest I think I mourned the relationship a long time before we actually separated. My question is.. I’m horny! I in no way shape or form am ready to date a man but a girl has needs. My girlfriends keep saying I should get on the apps which seems good in theory except that I live in a small city where everyone knows everyone and I know I will come across his mates on the apps who will tell him that I’m on there and then he will be even nastier than he is now. I just don’t know if I should say ‘fuck it’ and do it or is it too soon? Help

 

IS A 6 MIN VOICE NOTE FROM A POTENTIAL DATE A RED FLAG
My friend was chatting to a guy on hinge for 2 days. They eventually exchanged numbers and after 4 days they planned to meet, but she got cold feet because he was appearing too ‘keen’. Keen as in messaging multiple times throughout the day without her responding and would do things such as react to messages to get her attention in hopes she would respond. She attempted the slow fade away, replying after 24-48 hours later. However he wasn’t getting the message and she decided to tell him she wasn’t interested in pursuing anything. As a response he sent her a 6 MINUTE voice message, attempting to convince her to give him a chance. My friend is CONSIDERING giving him a go, because she appreciates the effort he has made. (Keep in mind they haven’t met yet). I think this is an awful idea and a 6 minute voice message is a big red flag. What would you do? 

 

HOW TO KNOW IF RELATIONSHIP IS OVER
How to know when your relationship is done? My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years. We’ve been through ALOT in that time including a separation and couples counselling. We have an almost 3 year old and suffered a miscarriage 3 months ago after trying for 16 months. Long story short, everything he does lately pisses me off. He teases our son which I hate because I copped that as a kid and it made me incredibly uncomfortable and gave me low self esteem. I’ve spoken to him about it and “he’s doing it for fun and to make him less soft” but I just find it mean. There’s that and a few other things and I can’t tell whether we’re just going through a rough patch with everything that’s happened or whether I’m just done. Interested to hear your opinions.

 

CAN I TELL MY INLAWS I DON’T WANT THEM STAYING OVER NIGHT?
My in-laws currently live 1.5hrs away from us. Often when they come to visit us, they want to stay the night. We have two young children and a small unit. I find it all gets a bit overwhelming when they stay over because they have big personalities and quite different views to mine. My partner also clashes with his parents at times and it can all get quite heated. They also have a small dog who like to piss in our house on arrival They want to move even further away from us. I think they think they will just stay over at our place when they want to see their grandchildren. I’m all for day visits and catch ups but is it rude to tell them they can’t stay at our place overnight? How do you word that nicely? Should I just suck it up and let them stay over from time to time? 

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