Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby #176 - How to Not Be a Dick
Let's face it: We all have moments. Moments when we feel (justifiably!) angry or frustrated with other people, and moments when we lose our cool.
While everyone is in agreement that there is a time and place for healthy anger, sometimes the lines can get blurred around when you're setting appropriate limits.... and when you're probably being unnecessarily aggressive about making your feelings known.
How do we find that balance? The balance between not being a pushover and having a right to your feelings, but also having compassion for other people? Especially (here's the hard part) other people who may not be behaving well themselves. It's challenging for all of us. (#lifegoals!)
The easy thing to do in the face of conflict is to lash out in anger, push people away, or freeze people out. It's much harder to stay in the ring and find a path of mutual understanding and repair.
On the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I had the great pleasure of speaking with NYC-based psychoanalyst Dr. Mark Borg about this subject, and his insights into how to lead a more compassionate life. Dr. Borg is the author of the book, "Don't Be a Dick: Change Yourself, Change Your World" and he shared thoughtful strategies for how to:
- Gain the authentic self-awareness necessary to catch yourself when you're slipping into unnecessary "dickishness"
- How to handle challenging interpersonal situations with grace and tact
- The mindset that will help you stay compassionate with people who are not behaving well
- Strategies to handle extremely triggering situations with your family around the holidays (without getting sucked into conflict)
- How to use the power of empathy for yourself, and others, in order to make the world a better place
I hope this perspective and advice helps you and the people you love.