The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Orgasm Expert: Women Don’t Like Penetrative Sex As Much As Men! This Is How Often You Should Be Having Sex! Stop Inviting Pets Into The Bedroom! - Doctor Karen Gurney

Feb 19, 2024

Dr. Karen Gurney and Steven discuss why women prefer non-penetrative sex, how technology affects sex lives, and the importance of sexual communication. Topics include initiating desire, scheduling sex, and managing expectations. They explore sexual scripts, pleasure inequality, and the challenges of parenting on intimacy. The conversation dives into redefining sexual fulfillment, handling sleep deprivation, and navigating changes post-pregnancy and menopause. They also touch on open relationships and personal challenges in psychology and sex education.

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Doctor Karen Gurney

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Understanding sexual currency can trigger desire in long-term relationships by prioritizing various sexual behaviors over traditional intercourse.

Open communication about sexual needs and desires is essential for maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship, creating a culture of low pressure and easy dialogue around sex.

Daily distractions like work stress hinder sexual desire, emphasizing mindfulness practices to enhance focus and presence during sexual activity for heightened pleasure.

Relationships can nurture attraction through novelty, experimentation, and open communication about preferences for initiating sex, challenging societal norms for a more fulfilling sexual experience.

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Importance of Sexual Currency and Challenging Sexual Scripts

Sexual currency, which includes physical affection, flirting, and other sexual behaviors, can trigger desire in a long-term relationship. The dominant sexual script that prioritizes penis and vagina sex as the main course of sex can lead to dissatisfaction, especially for women who often prefer other sexual acts. Understanding and challenging these scripts can lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

The Complexity of Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

01:11

The Timing of Sex and Eating (Date Night Strategies)

00:59

Nurturing Desire in a Relationship

00:45

The Case Against Monogamy

01:53

Introduction

4min

Evolution of Sex Therapy and Mindfulness in Sexual Experiences

21min

Navigating Desire and Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships

11min

Nurturing Sexual Currency in Relationships

15min

Exploring Sexual Scripts and Pleasure Inequality

10min

Exploring Communication and Clarity in Sexual Relationships

3min

Redefining Sexual Fulfillment

4min

Challenges of Parenting, Sleep Deprivation, and Decline in Sexual Frequency

2min

Navigating Parenthood and Maintaining Intimacy

15min

10.

Navigating Sexual Changes Due to Menopause and Post-Pregnancy Body Image

2min

11.

Reimagining Monogamy and Exploring Open Relationships

5min

12.

Navigating Personal and Professional Challenges in Psychology and Sex Education

3min

Everyone has the desire to be desired, finally, in this episode, the mystery of desire is stripped back.

Dr Karen Gurney is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, she has been helping couples tackle sex problems for over 20 years. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life’.

In this conversation Karen and Steven discuss topics, such as the reasons for a dead sex life, why women prefer non-penetrative sex, how technology is killing your sex life, and why you should invest in your sexual currency.

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Orgasm Expert: Women Don’t Like Penetrative Sex As Much As Men! This Is How Often You Should Be Having Sex! Stop Inviting Pets Into The Bedroom! - Doctor Karen Gurney

Episode guests

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Deep dives

Importance of Sexual Currency and Challenging Sexual Scripts

The Role of Communication in Maintaining Desire

The Impact of Distraction and Attention on Desire

Maintaining Attraction and Overcoming Challenges in Long-term Relationships

The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships

The Frequency of Sex and Sexual Satisfaction

Challenges and Strategies for Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life as Parents

The Complexity of Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

The Timing of Sex and Eating (Date Night Strategies)

Nurturing Desire in a Relationship

The Case Against Monogamy

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The Orgasm Expert: Women Don’t Like Penetrative Sex As Much As Men! This Is How Often You Should Be Having Sex! Stop Inviting Pets Into The Bedroom! - Doctor Karen Gurney

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Importance of Sexual Currency and Challenging Sexual Scripts

The Role of Communication in Maintaining Desire

The Impact of Distraction and Attention on Desire

Maintaining Attraction and Overcoming Challenges in Long-term Relationships

The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships

The Frequency of Sex and Sexual Satisfaction

Challenges and Strategies for Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life as Parents

The Complexity of Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

The Timing of Sex and Eating (Date Night Strategies)

Nurturing Desire in a Relationship

The Case Against Monogamy

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