Skills Focus on Apologies with Guest Dale Rubury

This is the second skills focused episode of the season in which Leslie and Dale talk about the art of apologizing.  Leslie talks about The Three Step Apology and how it evolved into the technique it is today.  Dale shares her journey with apologies and how she went from feeling like apologizing was impossible to finding the power of apologizing as an adult.  She also shares how she went from a blaming child to a responsible adult taking ownership of her behavior. This conversation between mother and daughter, emphasizes the importance of apologizing and the specific parts of an effective apology.  They use examples to illustrate the impact that parents can have by apologizing to their children to model that behavior/skill. 

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Time stamps:

4:33 A description of the Three Steps Apology

10:45 Why so many adults have difficulty with apologizing

16:23 Parents modeling apologies

19:50 Children being hard on themselves for making a mistake

21:03 Blaming instead of apologizing

27:00  Apologies without behavior change lose meaning 

Leslie-ism:  Children can become responsible adults who know how to apologize when given the space to make mistakes.  

Show Note Links:

• Three Step Apology A description of what the steps are and examples of how to use this skill..
• I would like to give a shout out to Simple Families podcast where I was a guest talking with Denaya Barahona, Phd. all about exposing our children to things they are afraid of, things that we are afraid of and much more.  
• Book Reference:  Janis Abrahms Spring How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not to    A well written book with practical advice about the power of forgiveness.  

Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Dale Rubury, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Public relations is handled by Tink Media. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.