LOVERS by shan S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers
Sep 24, 2025
51:36
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What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?
Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.
This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.
Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life
🔗 Follow Jemele Hill
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehill
Want more Lover?
Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com
Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes
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What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?
Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.
This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.
Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
- Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
- How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
- What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
- Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life
🔗 Follow Jemele Hill
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehill
Want more Lover?
Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com
Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes