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ERP 393: How To Get Through The Power Struggle In Relationship — An Interview With Shan Merchant

Oct 10, 2023

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Power struggle is a phase in a relationship where couples face heightened awareness of their differences, needs, and unmet expectations. It represents a shift from the initial romantic honeymoon stage to a stage where partners become more aware of each other's flaws and unresolved issues. This stage is marked by emotional turbulence and communication breakdowns as couples navigate the complexities of their evolving connection. However, it's also seen as an opportunity for growth and transformation if approached with conscious effort and relationship skills.

In this episode, we explore dynamic strategies and practical tools to help couples overcome challenges in their relationship and foster a more peaceful, loving connection. Discover how to determine which stage your relationship is in, prioritize emotional safety, communicate with empathy, and deepen your mutual understanding. Join us as we discuss practical steps to strengthen your relationship and establish a robust foundation for lasting love and harmony.

Shan is an Imago Couples Therapist and Relationship Expert. She helps professional couples on the brink of divorce finally find peace in their relationship and put their wedding rings back on. She's authored the book "From Power Struggle to Peaceful Couple". Shan's on a mission to stop couples settling for unhappy relationships that drain their energy because she believes great relationships are the foundation for a great life. Shan works globally from England.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode

3:52 Shan’s journey: From romantic dreams to relationship expertise.

14:08 Understanding and navigating the power struggle in relationships.

22:08 Embracing conflict as nature’s savage gifts in the power struggle.

26:36 Emotional safety and communication in a relationship.

34:47 The imago dialogue: A structured path to safe and effective communication in relationships.

38:02 Using dialogue to improve communication in relationships.

45:13 Improving communication in relationships through empathy and respect.

Mentioned

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Imago Relationship Therapy

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love