305. Negotiation & Collaboration for Professional Women of Color (and Everyone Else): A Conversation with Executive Coach Jamie Lee
Aug 31, 2023
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In this episode, guest Jamie Lee, an executive coach, discusses how to ask for and advocate for what you want in your professional life. The conversation explores the significance of thought work, the impact of social conditioning on professional women, shifting perspectives and visualizations, changing coaching approaches, and negotiating and collaborating in the workplace.
The Three Circle Framework provides a structured approach to advocating for what you want in your career, focusing on showcasing your value, understanding the goals of your employer, and articulating your own desires.
Approaching negotiations with a collaborative and curious mindset increases effectiveness, emphasizing the importance of aligning your ask with the goals and interests of the employer, reframing rejection as an opportunity, and being open to gathering more information.
Deep dives
The Three Circle Framework: Advocating for What You Want
The podcast episode explores the concept of the Three Circle Framework, which focuses on advocating for what you want in your career, such as negotiating for a promotion or raise. The first circle involves recognizing and showcasing the value you already bring to the table, along with the future impact you can make. The second circle emphasizes understanding the goals of your employer or counterpart, getting clear on their priorities and needs. Finally, the third circle involves identifying and articulating what you want for yourself. By finding the overlap between these circles, you can present your ask as an act of service, demonstrating the benefits it brings to the employer or other parties involved.
Collaborative Negotiation and Being Curious
The podcast episode emphasizes the importance of being collaborative in your negotiations and approaching the conversation with curiosity. It highlights the need to understand and articulate how your ask aligns with the goals and interests of the employer or manager. By engaging in a collaborative problem-solving mindset, you can create openings for your counterpart to participate and find mutually beneficial solutions. It encourages reframing rejection or a no as an opportunity to gather more information and explore alternative paths. The episode emphasizes the effectiveness of being open, curious, and willing to ask follow-up questions to navigate the negotiation process more effectively.
Understanding Social Conditioning and Overcoming Bias
The podcast episode delves into the impact of social conditioning and biases on individuals' thoughts and actions, particularly in the workplace. It highlights how societal beliefs and stereotypes can shape internalized biases that hold individuals back, particularly women and women of color. The episode explores the importance of understanding the role of socialization in order to override and interrupt harmful thought patterns. It advocates for a nuanced perspective when consuming media, recognizing that while certain experiences and statistics may exist, they do not define individual potential for change and success. It encourages individuals to reclaim agency and empower themselves through thought work and mindset techniques.
Empowering Coaching and Overcoming Perfectionist Fantasy
The podcast episode discusses the impact of advanced certification in feminist coaching on the coaching approach. It highlights that the certification has reduced fear in coaching on sensitive topics and encouraged a more nuanced perspective. The episode acknowledges the importance of guiding clients to make choices within the coaching session and empowering them to navigate their own career trajectories. It emphasizes the value of thought work and the ability to reframe anger as an empowered state rather than a disempowered one. The episode underscores the coaching tools and mindset techniques that promote greater agency, confidence, and influence in one's career.
This week I’m joined by Executive Coach and Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching grad Jamie Lee as we discuss how to ask for and advocate for what you want in your professional life (and all parts of your life). Tune in to learn about the “outside the performance review network” that’s important to getting ahead, the 3-step framework for advocating for whatever it is you want in your professional life, and how to interrupt the unintentional thought patterns that are holding you back.