PsycHacks Episode 1: How to set effective boundaries
Jul 7, 2021
Discover the essential skill of setting effective boundaries with toxic individuals. Learn why boundary-setting isn't about controlling others but about managing your own responses. Clear communication and understanding consequences are key to fostering personal responsibility in relationships. Explore how mastering this art can significantly enhance your peace of mind and transform relational dynamics.
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Controlling Others Backfires
- Trying to control someone else's behavior usually fails and provokes reactance.
- Dr. Orion Terriban explains that boundary attempts which try to control others often make situations worse.
Concrete Examples Of Boundary Violations
- Dr. Orion Terriban lists examples: anger, nightly drunkenness, and infidelity as boundary triggers.
- These concrete behaviors show what might prompt you to remove yourself from a relationship.
Set Clear Consequences
- Tell the other person the consequence you will enact if they repeat the behavior.
- Follow through by removing yourself from the situation so the boundary has real cost.