This podcast explores the complexities of success for AuDHD individuals, where achievements may feel less rewarding, and traditional success can be elusive due to societal factors. It emphasizes the importance of asking better questions about our dreams and goals, and highlights resources like community spaces and asking the right questions. The discussion touches on the emotional rollercoaster of pursuing goals and the need to reassess one's creative journey and intentions.
Success can feel less fulfilling than expected due to societal factors and stigma.
Reaching milestones may not evoke expected emotions, leading to introspection on accomplishment's essence.
Deep dives
Navigating Disappointment in Pursuit of Success
The podcast episode delves into the disappointment that can accompany both success and failure. It highlights the emotional complexities associated with achieving long-term goals, where reaching a milestone may not evoke the expected emotions. Through personal examples, the host explores how success can sometimes feel anticlimactic, leading to introspection about the true essence of accomplishment and its impact on one's emotional state.
Internalizing Success and Coping with Change
The discussion extends to how the perception of success can evolve and shift over time, ultimately leading to internal struggles and challenges. The episode emphasizes the concept of 'hedonic adaptation,' where initial excitement or joy from achievements can diminish as they become routine or normalized. The host shares personal experiences of redefining success and adapting to new circumstances, showcasing the emotional and psychological dynamics involved in navigating success.
Embracing Life's Organic Cycles and Finding Meaning
The podcast delves into the cyclical nature of life and the inherent ups and downs that come with pursuing success and fulfillment. It underscores the importance of embracing the organic processes of growth and change, acknowledging that success is not solely measured by external accolades. By emphasizing the value of intrinsic motivation, personal growth, and meaningful feedback, the episode encourages listeners to find fulfillment in the journey itself, beyond conventional markers of success.
Success is a complicated topic for AuDHD folks. We're often not praised for what feels the most difficult. Then sometimes told we did an amazing job for something that didn't feel like a big deal.
AuDHD folks often also struggle to achieve traditional success in the workplace and relationships, in large part due to stigma and being disabled by societal factors.
Then, once we actually achieve some kind of success, it can feel way less good than we expected.
It's totally okay to have dreams (big or small)! And it's also useful to ask better questions about why and what we're hoping for once we get there.