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Classic Debate: Parenting Doesn’t Matter (Or Not As Much As You Think)

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Feb 19, 2025

Joining the discussion are Robert Plomin, a behavioral genetics expert; Susan Pawlby, a developmental psychologist; Ann Pleshette Murphy, a parenting counselor; and Stuart Ritchie, a social genetics lecturer. They delve into the hotly debated topic of parenting's influence versus genetic factors in child development. The conversation highlights key insights from twin studies, the importance of nurturing environments, and the psychological aspects of parenting. Ultimately, they challenge conventional narratives and urge parents to embrace their children's unique traits while focusing on love and support.

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INSIGHT

Genes Over Parenting

Inherited DNA differences significantly shape who we are.
Parenting styles have less impact on children's outcomes than genes.

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ANECDOTE

Bobby and Eddie

Two adopted individuals, Bobby and Eddie, discovered they were identical twins.
Despite being raised apart, they shared striking similarities in personality, interests, and mental health.

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Nature vs. Nurture

Twin and adoption studies reveal that genetics account for about half of the differences in psychological development.
Environmental influences are more random than systematic.

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Nature vs. Nurture: The Parenting Debate

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The Importance of Love in Parenting

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The Importance of Early Interactions and Parental Engagement in Child Development

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Rethinking Parenting and Genetics

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The Impact of Parenting on Child Development

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The Science and Debate of Parenting Influence

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For today's Classic Debate we're revisiting our 2018 debate "Parenting Doesn’t Matter (Or Not As Much As You Think)".

We were joined by Professor of Behavioural Genetics Robert Plomin, the Developmental Clinical Psychologist Susan Pawlby, therapist, parenting counsellor and broadcaster Ann Pleshette Murphy, and Stuart Ritchie, lecturer in social genetics and developmental psychiatry and author of Science Fictions.

Hosting the debate was Doctor and broadcaster, Dr Xand van Tulleken.

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