090 - Navigating Cultural Differences in Parenting with Dr. James Grubman

Oct 8, 2024

Dr. James Grubman, an expert in intergenerational and cross-cultural dynamics, sheds light on navigating cultural differences in parenting. He discusses three cultural prototypes—individualist, collective harmony, and honor—highlighting how these influence communication styles. The conversation explores the generational clashes arising from differing values and the impact of international schooling. Grubman emphasizes awareness as the key to resolving conflicts and advocates for curiosity and dialogue to blend parenting approaches across generations.

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Three Global Cultural Prototypes

Researchers identify three global cultural prototypes: individualist, harmony (face), and honor cultures.
Each person and country is a unique mix of these prototypes, not purely one type.

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Contrast Between Individualist And Harmony

Individualist culture values personal identity, direct communication, and individual trust.
Harmony (face) culture emphasizes collective harmony, indirect communication, and top-down parenting.

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Distinctive Features Of Honor Culture

Honor culture is distinct from East/West and often centers on tribe, reputation, and family protection.
It features indirect but sometimes dramatic communication and top-down authority roles.

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Many parents may feel caught between cultures at some point. It may be with previous generations such as parenting conflicts with your own parents or in-laws. Or feeling caught between the "traditional" parenting methods we experienced and the gentle parenting we see on the internet and social media.

Often, we don't realize how much cultural differences influence the way we see the world, that it's difficult to see any other way.

In this second of two episodes with Dr. James Grubman, we dive into how cultural differences affect parenting. Dr. Jim Grubman is an internationally recognized consultant to families of wealth, family enterprises, and the wealth advisory industry. Dr. Grubman has been honored with the 2024 Lifetime Achievement Award by the Family Wealth Report and the 2024 Richard Beckhard Practice Award
from the Family Firm Institute.

He is the author of the renowned book, Strangers in Paradise: How Families Adapt to Wealth Across Generations, and co-author of Wealth 3.0: The Future of Family Wealth Advising (with Dennis Jaffe and Kristin Keffeler) and Cross Cultures: How Global Families Navigate Change Across Generations (with Dennis
Jaffe) along with multiple other publications. Dr. Grubman is a leader in The UHNW Institute, an industry think tank, and holds Fellow status in the Family Firm Institute and the Purposeful Planning Institute as well as membership in STEP, an international trusts-and-estates organization. His practice, Family Wealth Consulting, is based in Boston, Massachusetts, USA.

Here's just some of what you'll discover in this episode:

The three cultures based on research (Yes, there are three and not just two!)
How these cultural differences can result in conflicts among generations (and other surprising sources of conflicts!), in various issues including parenting
What we can do if we feel caught between cultures

Learn more about Dr. James Grubman at https://jamesgrubman.com/

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