The Art of We 124. Date Nights, Honest Sex & Deepening Intimacy with Shana James
May 15, 2025
In this heartwarming conversation, Shana James, a seasoned relationship coach and author, dives into the essence of intimacy. She shares a transformative exercise to foster deeper connections by asking partners how to love each other better. Shana introduces her unique seven-date ritual designed to enhance presence and pleasure. They explore the meaning of sex beyond the physical, emphasizing emotional and energetic intimacy, and discuss navigating shifts in desire, particularly during perimenopause. Tune in for insightful tools and fresh perspectives on nurturing lasting bonds!
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Authentic Relating Accelerates Vulnerability
- People trained in authentic relating drop into vulnerability faster and accept messy honesty.
- Those skills make intimacy feel easier and more immediate compared with folks who hold it together.
Ask How To Love Better
- Ask your partner explicit questions like "How can I love you better?" to clarify needs.
- Use those answers to create concrete responses rather than guessing and failing.
Design Seven-Date Touch Rituals
- Turn touch and desire into planned date rituals by discussing preferences and fears ahead of time.
- Use team-style prep so both partners feel supported and reduce shame before the evening.
