In this episode of The Art of We, Krista is joined by longtime friend and renowned relationship coach Shana James for a candid, heartfelt conversation about cultivating deeper intimacy in partnership. From redefining what sex actually means to designing date nights that create more presence, pleasure, and connection — we talk about insights and tools that might just shift how you think about intimacy, sex, and what’s possible in your relationship. This episode is full of heart-opening perspectives on what it really means to be intimate with another human being.
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(02:13) Welcome Shana James
(04:13) Impact of growing up without emotional intimacy
(06:42) The question that changed Shana’s client’s relationship
(07:02) What is intimacy, really?
(09:57) Shana’s 7-date night ritual
(12:15) Creating turn-on by removing pressure
(14:07) Practicing presence and attunement in intimacy
(17:46) Prioritizing intention for opening more possibility
(20:00) Perimenopause, stress, and shifting desire
(26:53) Breaking inherited relational patterns
(32:36) When your partner shuts down or isn’t growth-minded
(35:36) Calling your partner into their greatness
(43:33) Redefining sex
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