Parenting teenagers untangled. đ Your Weekly Hug Eldest daughter syndrome and the trouble with parentification.
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The hashtag #eldestdaughtersyndrome is reported to have had a whopping 24.7 million views on TikTok, and counting, but what is it and why is it getting so much attention?
We look at the issues faced by the eldest sibling in the family, then talk more specifically about why daughters can feel resentful of the role that's foisted on them. It's easily done by us parents, particularly if we live in a patriarchal society.
The expectation that they will do more of the emotional and domestic heavy-lifting in the family than the other siblings can teach them great life-skills, even make them successful in the workplace, but it can also make them resentful at missing out on the benefits of childhood.
In this episode we talk about how we spot it and what can we do to rebalance what might be happening in our family.
THE EXCELLENT BOOK I MENTIONED:
- The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough
USEFUL ARTICLES FROM HOME GIRLS UNITE ON INSTAGRAM:
- https://www.npr.org/2010/11/18/131424878/how-much-does-birth-order-shape-our-lives
- https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/first-born-children-eldest-daughter-family-dynamics/675986/
- https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/eldest-daughter-syndrome-oldest-sibling-family-responsibilities
BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FROM SAGE THERAPY CHICAGO:
- The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are by Dr. Kevin Leman
- The Eldest Daughter Effect: How Our Family Order Influences Our Lives by
Lisette Schuitemaker - The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us by Jeffrey Kluger
- Sisters
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