Sex for Saints Episode 365 - Who Controls The Sex In Your Marriage?
Apr 18, 2025
Feeling like sex in your marriage is a power struggle? You're not alone. The podcast explores how the lower-desire partner often shapes sexual dynamics, creating emotional tension. It discusses the hidden burdens this role carries and how shifts in desire can change the landscape. Listeners learn practical tips on moving from conflict to collaboration, encouraging curiosity and self-validation. Ultimately, it emphasizes that control is an illusion, urging couples to co-create intimacy and strengthen their connection.
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Why Lower Desire Often Dictates Frequency
- Desire differences naturally give decision power to the lower-desire partner in a relationship.
- That power often arises from preference dynamics, not intentional withholding.
Safety And Burden Of The Lower-Desire Role
- Being the lower-desire partner can feel safe and validating because you are pursued.
- That role still carries emotional burdens like guilt and responsibility for saying no.
Sarah's Role Reversal Story
- Amanda describes Sarah reversing from a lower-desire to higher-desire partner after personal growth.
- The husband's lack of reciprocal desire produced shock, hurt, and potential resentment.