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The Allender Center Podcast

Containment and Attunement

Jan 12, 2024
Explore the concepts of containment and attunement in relationships to create safe spaces for emotional expression. Discover the transformative power of lament and the importance of living in tension. Learn how to establish a context of containment in challenging times and hold the tension of grief and desire.
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Quick takeaways

  • Containment involves creating a safe space for others to express emotions and navigate difficulties, and it is crucial for healthy relationships and healing.
  • Finding moments of delight and joy can open the door to desire, leading to a deeper engagement with our own longings and the longings of others, inviting us to move beyond cynicism and control.

Deep dives

Importance of Containment and Empathy

Containment, which involves creating a space for others to be fully seen and heard, is crucial for healthy relationships and healing. It is not about control or maintaining the status quo, but rather about providing a safe container for emotions and experiences. This requires attunement and empathy, the ability to suffer with and be present for others. Lament is an important component of containment, allowing space for grief, rage, and the acknowledgment that things are not as they should be. Through lament, we can engage in the transformative process of bringing forth new possibilities and honoring the complexity of our inner world.

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