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2201: The Forgotten (But Essential) Foundation of a Powerful Marriage by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Martial Advice

Jun 9, 2024

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Dr. Kelly Flanagan discusses the importance of addressing deeper emotional roots in marriage, going beyond communication. Couples should explore unresolved childhood needs and traumas together for genuine connection and healing.

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Communication is not the foundation of a powerful marriage; delving into emotional roots is essential for genuine connection.

Genuine emotional expression from shared childhood wounds fosters authentic connection and transforms weaknesses into strengths.

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The Foundation of Marriages Beyond Communication

Marriage, perceived as akin to a house structure, emphasizes the importance of delving into the 'cellar' of relationships. Rather than focusing only on communication as the front door, acknowledging emotional needs from shared childhood experiences is crucial. Dr. Kelly Flanagan suggests that true marital strength lies in feeling and addressing buried pains together, bypassing mere conversation. By exploring childhood traumas and unmet needs, couples can establish genuine connections and evolve beyond surface-level problem-solving.

Intro

3min

Exploring the Emotionally Complex Depths of Marriage

5min

Exploring the Forgotten Foundation of a Strong Marriage

3min

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Episode 2201:

Dr. Kelly Flanagan reveals that communication, while important, is not the foundation of a powerful marriage. He argues that couples need to explore the deeper emotional roots of their conflicts, addressing unresolved childhood needs and traumas together to achieve genuine connection and healing.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-disturbing-reason-your-marriage-isnt-joyful/

Quotes to ponder:

"Great communication can only take us so far in marriage. The truth is, to take our marriages to the next level, we must be willing to go to the bottom level."

"We must stop talking to one another, and we must begin feeling with each other."

"May this be the year you join hands with your partner, descend into the darkness of your marital cellars, and surprisingly, joyfully, find there the light of grace and the glow of authentic connection."

Episode references:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797

Hold Me Tight: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X

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