Julia learns from Anne Lamott about signs from the universe, parenting adult children, recovery, perfectionism, and falling in love at 65. They discuss aging, wisdom, healing, control in relationships, vulnerability in creative pursuits, and setting boundaries. Advertisements for Skin Perfector Essence, ButcherBox, and Pair eyewear are shared.
Grandparenting brings joy with less worry compared to parenting, allowing for cherished moments.
The acronym 'WAIT' reminds us to pause and consider if offering help is truly needed.
Conscious breathing practices like 'breathing in, I call myself, breathing out, I smile' can offer peace.
Deep dives
The Joy of Grandparenting versus Parenting
Anne Lamott reflects on the difference between being a parent and a grandparent, highlighting the joy of grandparenting where the worry decreases compared to the anxieties of parenting. She mentions the sheer joy of taking care of grandchildren who eventually go back home at night, allowing grandparents to relish in the moments without the same level of worry associated with parenting.
Learning to Say No and the Weight Acronym
Anne discusses her tendency to offer help and fix things, especially in parenting, which sometimes led to resistance from her son. She introduces the acronym 'WAIT,' which stands for 'Why Am I Talking,' emphasizing the importance of not overstepping boundaries and recognizing when offering help may not always be beneficial.
Importance of Breathing and Mindfulness
Anne shares the power of conscious breathing and mindfulness practices, highlighting a breathing exercise she finds beneficial - 'breathing in, I call myself, breathing out, I smile.' This exercise helps break the cycle of negative thoughts, offering a moment of peace and connection.
Encouraging Self-Acceptance and Self-Love
Anne reflects on her younger self and the advice she would give herself at 21, emphasizing self-acceptance and self-love. She encourages embracing one's natural beauty and inner qualities, fostering self-worth independent of others' opinions or judgments.
Embracing the Journey of Recovery and Self-Discovery
Anne discusses her journey of recovery and sobriety, highlighting the transformative impact it had on her writing and personal growth. She shares insights on the process of learning to navigate life's challenges, prioritize self-care, and find strength in vulnerability and self-discovery.
This week on Wiser Than Me, Julia gets schooled by 70-year-old author and Sunday school teacher Anne Lamott (Bird by Bird). Julia finds solace in subtle signs from the universe and learns the importance of shutting the hell up when it comes to parenting adult children. Anne also shares wisdom on recovery, perfectionism, and falling in love at 65. Plus, Julia and her mom, Judy, explore the inevitable role reversal that comes with aging parents.