EP 476: Getting Over Guilt When It Comes to Your Parents with Ariana

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Ariana, who struggles with guilt related to her relationship with her mother and aunt. Ariana grew up in an emotionally challenging environment with caregivers who struggled with alcohol dependency. As an adult, she experiences guilt around maintaining boundaries, especially as her mother and aunt react negatively to her attempts to stand up for herself. Christine helps Ariana understand that her guilt is tied to deep-rooted patterns from her childhood and supports her in releasing feelings that no longer serve her well-being.

 

Through their conversation, Christine guides Ariana to recognize that she’s breaking a generational pattern. She encourages Ariana to focus on the family she’s building, rather than being consumed by the dynamics she grew up with. This episode explores healing, setting boundaries, and the journey toward liberation from generational patterns.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel guilty when you set boundaries, especially with family members?
• Have you ever felt responsible for the emotional well-being of a parent?
• Are you at a point in your life where you’re ready to break free from family patterns that no longer serve you?
• Do you struggle with guilt about prioritizing your own well-being?

 

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Ariana’s guilt stems from a desire to feel like a “good daughter,” even at the cost of her own peace.
• Christine highlights that Ariana’s guilt is unproductive and rooted in her past survival mechanisms.
• By releasing guilt and setting clear boundaries, Ariana can create a healthier, more peaceful life for herself and her future family.
• The session emphasizes the importance of breaking generational patterns, and choosing to prioritize one’s own emotional well-being.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on whether your guilt serves a productive purpose or if it’s keeping you tied to unhelpful dynamics.
• Practice boundary-setting with compassion, knowing that prioritizing yourself is not selfish.
• Consider what kind of family environment you want to create and work toward it, regardless of past experiences.
• Release attachment to controlling others’ emotions or well-being, focusing instead on your own growth.

 

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