Exploring codependency in relationships, decoding relationship dynamics, navigating the turbulent 20s, and processing shame in your 20s. The podcast delves into signs of codependency, healing trauma bonding, and setting healthy boundaries.
Unhealthy codependency involves imbalance of power with one giving excessively, warning signs include emotional exhaustion and lack of boundaries.
Understanding healthy dependency vs codependency, roots in childhood attachment styles, differentiation through enabling actions and fostering communication.
Deep dives
Understanding Codependency in Relationships
Codependency in relationships is a maladaptive dynamic where one person assumes the role of giver, while the other becomes the taker. Unhealthy codependency manifests when there is an imbalance of power, with one person giving excessively and the other taking. Warning signs often include emotional and physical exhaustion, feeling stuck or guilty, and a lack of boundaries or independence.
History and Causes of Codependency
The term 'codependency' originated in addiction research, describing enabling relationships between individuals struggling with addiction and their close ones. Risk factors for codependency include a history of abuse, abandonment, or addiction. These patterns are often rooted in childhood attachment styles and influence how individuals navigate relationships in adulthood.
Differentiating Healthy Dependency from Codependency
Healthy dependency in relationships involves mutual give-and-take, where both parties support each other. Distinguishing between healthy dependence and codependency hinges on whether actions enable or truly help the other person. Establishing boundaries, seeking external perspectives, and fostering open, honest communication are key steps towards resolving codependency.
Moving Towards Interdependency
Healing from codependency requires self-reflection, setting non-negotiable boundaries, and confronting the issue directly with the other person. Embracing healthy interdependence involves acknowledging vulnerabilities and fostering mutual support and respect. Progress may be challenging, but seeking external support and staying committed to personal growth can facilitate the journey towards healthier relationships.
How can you tell if you're codependent or just really close to someone? If you are enmeshed or just reliant on their support? Feeling happy and stable in a loving relationship, or losing your independence? There are a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings when it come to codependent relationships, especially in our 20s and in today's episode we break down all you need to know and more, including:
The roots of codependency in childhood and attachment theory
Signs of codependency
Codependency v. dependency
How to heal your need for intensity and trauma bonding
Healing and restoring a codependent bond
Listen now! Today's episode is a rerun of Episode 69 whilst Jemma is recovering from a sudden illness. New episodes will be back on Friday, happy listening.
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