A Secret to Helping Our Kids Achieve (Advice for the New Year)
Jan 2, 2024
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Explore common concerns of parents regarding their children's development and how putting too much pressure on kids can hinder their learning and confidence. Learn about achievement-oriented parenting and the importance of trusting children's natural development. Discover strategies for supporting a strong-willed child's assertiveness and the power of trust in children's abilities.
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Children need acceptance and autonomy to flourish, instead of parental pressure for specific skills or achievements.
Parents should trust their child's journey and abilities, creating an environment that fosters motivation and growth.
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The Importance of Acceptance and Autonomy in Parenting
Parents often worry about their children's skill development and progress. However, when parents want their child to achieve something too much, it can create pressure and resistance in the child. Children need acceptance and autonomy to flourish. By accepting and supporting children as they are, without putting too much emphasis on specific skills or achievements, children can develop confidence and a healthy sense of self.
Trusting in the Child's Journey
When parents overly focus on their child's assertion or skill development, it can backfire and hinder progress. Children may resist or feel pressure, resulting in frustration and negative outcomes. Instead, parents should trust that their child knows their own journey and will assert themselves when ready. By accepting and believing in their child's abilities, parents can create an environment that fosters motivation and growth.
As parents, we are prone to worry, and a common concern is that our kids don't seem motivated enough. Perhaps they aren't mastering certain skills as quickly as we think they should or could—physically, cognitively, creatively, or socially. They might seem disinterested in doing things that we feel certain they're capable of, even when we've gently encouraged them. Naturally, this confuses us. We wonder what we can do to help. In this premiere episode for 2024, Janet offers a counterintuitive suggestion for what we might be missing and how our good intentions can backfire.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, and Google Play.
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