Do you really know? Why do we hook up with our exes so often?
Nov 26, 2025
Many people find themselves drawn back to their exes after a breakup, with surveys suggesting over half engage in breakup sex. Reasons range from familiarity and comfort to simply missing the physical connection. Gender differences are intriguing, as men often report more hedonistic reasons and greater satisfaction afterward. While this can feel like a fun escape, aligning expectations is crucial to avoid heartbreak. For those feeling pulled back, a no-contact detox could be the key to moving on.
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Breakup Hookups Are Common
- Hooking up with exes is very common, with surveys showing about half of people have done it.
- Sexual compatibility and existing familiarity make returning to an ex an easy choice.
A Quick Night Out Leads Back
- A coffee meet-up or a slightly too boozy night out can quickly lead to getting back in bed with an ex.
- The host uses this common scenario to explain how easily people slip into breakup sex.
Many Reasons, Same Pull
- Researchers found 52 reasons people engage in breakup sex, led by fun and missing sex.
- Familiarity removes first-date awkwardness and makes rekindling sexually easy.