TED Talks Daily (#9) Elise’s Top Ten: Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel
106 snips
Sep 20, 2025 
In this thought-provoking discussion, Esther Perel, a renowned relationship therapist and author, explores the complexities of infidelity. She challenges the conventional view of cheating as merely betrayal, framing it instead as an expression of emotional longing. Perel delves into the reasons why affairs occur, including desires for vitality and connection. She also provides insights on healing and rebuilding trust in relationships, making it a pivotal conversation for anyone navigating the intricate landscape of love and intimacy.
AI Snips
Chapters
Transcript
Episode notes
Infidelity Is Common But Misunderstood
- Infidelity is common yet deeply misunderstood across cultures and history.
- Esther Perel reframes affairs as a complex human phenomenon, not a simple pathology.
Infidelity Definitions Shape Its Prevalence
- Definitions of infidelity vary widely and shape reported rates.
- New behaviors like sexting and dating apps expand what people now call affairs.
Secrecy Plus Imagination Fuels Affairs
- An affair combines secrecy, emotional connection, and sexual alchemy.
- Imagination and erotic fantasy can be as potent as physical encounter in fueling desire.