Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script 🌪️ How Do We Navigate the Comparison Game?
Do you ever feel like you're doing it wrong? Like everyone else has it figured out, and you're the only one flailing? Today we open the can of worms that wriggle around when we compare ourselves to the ones around us. Why are we so good at noticing our own lack, but not our abundance? What do we miss out on when we strive to match instead of living our unique values out loud? What do we do when we are grieving the very thing our friend has? Today we dive into the complexity and offer a few breadcrumbs for navigating this gnarly terrain.
Tune In to Hear Us Talk About:
🙃 The moments of comparison that make Rebekah like a child among the grownups.
When the thing you're good at doesn't always look shiny or tidy.
🌤️ Learning to notice where we have abundance in addition to noticing the strain.
🌓 Rebekah grieving not having another kid while Caitlin prepares to welcome theirs.
♿️ How disability can make it taboo to express jealousy/grief for what you don't have.
❓ The guiding question to sort the comparison feelings – What is this actually about?
🤝 What makes it tricky and useful to share when we feel the pang of comparison.
🎨 Letting the both/and of our lives, co-exist side-by-side as a creative script building project.
📬 Less matching for the sake of it and more living our values out loud as a flag to find our people.
Mentioned In This Episode:
The episode we had with Emma Parker about infertility and miscarriage.
The episode when each of us wonders if we will have a second kid.
Our conversation with Amelia Hruby about social media.
As Always:
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We would love to hear from you! Does your brain get stuck in comparison mode? How do you navigate feeling inferior to or envious of the people in your orbit? What are your tools? What are your angsts?