The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst The Holistic Psychologist (Dr. Nicole LePera) - A Masterclass on How to Heal Your Past and Do the Inner Work
I bet many of you reading this are feeling stuck in some way. Whether it’s in your business, in your personal life or your relationships I am sure you’ve been wanting to finally break free from your past and heal. I am going to share a little secret with you. Even though your life isn’t “chaotic” it doesn’t mean that unhealthy behaviors aren’t holding you back from living your best life.
Struggling to make change, self-sabotage, people-pleasing, addictions, constant feelings of anxiety/fear/stress, toxic relationships, feeling unfulfilled…. These are all signs that you are stuck and living in the past.
I got you thinking now, didn’t I?
I have been tracking down this person to get this interview for quite some time and after hearing who it is you will understand why. Her approach to healing is extraordinarily popular because of the way that it empowers people to have control over their thoughts, emotions, and actions. Remember, healing and doing the work is a daily practice. It certainly isn’t easy and takes time. There are many tools that can help you on your journey and she and I will discuss them all.
But please, remember that the goal isn’t to implement these all at once.
It’s simply to start small and begin to build new healthy habits one by one that will allow you to become your best self. Doing this will help you finally escape from the prison of your past so that you can be free to become the person you aspire.
Many of you will recognize today's guest from her highly popular social media platform. Some of you have may have participated in her selfhealers circle or have reposted or have seen some of her viral content.
I am very excited that Dr. Nicole LePera or as many of you know her The Holistic Psychologist is joining me on the show today. She is here to provide a masterclass on all things healing, including doing the inner work and holistic psychology.
As a clinical psychologist in private practice, she often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients— and for self— she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves.
Her book “How to do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal From Your Past, and Create Your Self" is set to be released on March 9th but is available now for presale. Her book should undoubtedly be on your must read list for the spring.
We discuss why fitness can be a catalyst for change, why therapy alone won’t heal you, how to stop feeling stressed and anxious when you have nothing to be stressed about, how to know if you have experienced trauma and how to develop self awareness and belief in yourself so that you can feel worthy and stop repeating old patterns, heal and thrive.
Topics discussed:
Nicoles backstory
Nicole's long battle with anxiety
Nicole's physical health issues such as digestion issues, sleep issues, brain fog
The mind body soul connection
The importance of fitness and taking care of yourself
The pivotal role fitness played in Nicole's healing journey
The meaning of holistic psychology
What is homeostasis/How does homeostasis relate to our previous patterns and conditioning/How can homeostasis show up with some of our struggles today?
Some tips to help people discover if they've gone through something that has impacted them in a way that shows up in a negative way today
Some ways that people can take a couple of steps to become more self-aware
Ways for people to cultivate belief in themselves so that they can get back on the right foot in their life
The reticular activating system
The importance of going back to childhood specifically when they're experiencing discomfort or unhealthy patterns of behaviors
The next step where someone can move forward when they already have established self awareness
Nicole’s advice for people who are starting to set boundaries and what are some simple ways to do it
What is ego?
How can somebody do some proactive work to check their ego and be more self-aware
How to set healthy boundaries
The importance of working on yourself first.
Takeaways:
Holistic means mind, body, soul, and exploring the very real underlying drivers of how we act, think, and live our day to day life.
Anytime we're struggling to create change, even if we know better or we can see a different future based on a different choice, usually it is an indicator that something deeper is preventing us from doing that. It's a good place to dive in and to look at what comes up.
We have to learn moment to moment how to be present in our body so that over time, we can continue to meet its ever changing needs.
Beliefs are so important and so impactful in how we experience and how we perceive our day to day happenings.
Anything new is going to challenge that homeostatic impulse, that desire to be back in that familiar.
Pick one thing and set a small daily promise each and every day, to keep that one promise. Break it down until it's almost so small.
As humans, we're actually wired to be in relationships with other people.
Boundaries are separation. They allow us to create safety so that we can more authentically honor our physical, spiritual and emotional needs, which then set us up to authentically show up for our relationships.
Ego is the story about ourselves.
Connect with Nicole:
Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/
Preorder Nicole's book:
https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X
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