Polycurious 53. How to Fortify Your Relationship with Lamees and Nick
Mar 25, 2025
Lamees and Nick share their transition from non-monogamy to the stability of monogamy. They introduce a framework for 'relationship fortification' that emphasizes honest communication and regular check-ins. Personal anecdotes reveal challenges like emotional manipulation and the importance of self-expression. Through structured conversations, they tackle jealousy and vulnerability, reinforcing the value of validating emotions. The duo explores the complexities of flirting within relationships and the role of gratitude in building deeper connections.
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Lamise's Toxic Relationship
- Lamise's previous non-monogamous relationship was toxic due to her suppressing her feelings and her partner's manipulative behavior.
- She pretended to be okay with an open dynamic, which led to escalating conflicts and feelings of being used.
The "Not Enough" Insecurity
- Feeling "not enough" is a common insecurity, especially in romantic relationships, often stemming from childhood experiences.
- While mentally acknowledging it as a "story" helps, physical sensations can persist.
Nick's Past Non-Monogamy
- Nick's previous non-monogamous experience was healthier but highlighted the work involved.
- He prefers monogamy's simplicity but was open to non-monogamy with Lamise.