How Porn Addiction Affects Relationships and What to Do About It | E485

Let’s get honest for a second. Porn addiction isn’t really about sex. It’s about connection… about loneliness, shame, and the ache to feel close to something when life feels empty or overwhelming.

My guest for this episode, Sathiya Sam, knows that pain deeply. After a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, he rebuilt his life and now helps others do the same through his Deep Clean program - a compassionate, science-meets-spirituality approach that helps people stop using porn and start building real connection again.

We’re talking about what really drives addiction, the role of purpose and community in recovery, how to protect kids in this new digital world, and what AI “relationships” mean for the future of intimacy. It’s a deep, human conversation about healing, hope, and the real work of reclaiming yourself.

Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Porn Addiction Is About Connection, Not Willpower
01:17 Sathiya Sam’s Recovery Story and Deep Clean Method
07:21 Purpose, Boredom, and the Root Causes of Porn Use
13:44 Protecting Kids From Early Exposure
18:24 AI, Loneliness, and Synthetic Intimacy
30:11 Healing Through Community and Real Connection
34:32 Why Your Partner Shouldn’t Be Your Accountability Partner
39:34 First Steps to Quit Porn for Good

Sometimes the hardest part is admitting you need a little help, and the bravest thing you can do is take that first step. If you’re ready to start your own growth and healing journey, you can get support from Sathiya here: https://www.sathiyasam.com/growing-self. Let them know Dr. Lisa sent you! ❤️

You don’t have to carry this by yourself. Real change is possible… and it starts with connection.

xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self

P.S. I’d also love to hear what resonated for you or what ideas you’d like me to explore next. Let’s keep the conversation going!