Sluts and Scholars 233 Sex and Parenting Part 3: Hot and Unbothered with Yana Tallon-Hicks
Dec 22, 2022
Yana Tallon-Hicks, a seasoned sex therapist and educator, joins to discuss the realities of maintaining intimacy while parenting. She explores the nuances of scheduling sexual moments amidst busy family lives and the evolving nature of desire after childbirth. Yana emphasizes the importance of communication and setting boundaries, encouraging parents to embrace 'good enough sex.' They share practical strategies for co-parenting and fostering open discussions about sexuality and consent, making it clear that intimacy doesn’t need to fade after becoming a parent.
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Schedule Sex for Responsive Desire
- Schedule sex to create a sexual context and responsive desire, especially for parents.
- Relying on spontaneous desire for all involved is unrealistic with parenting demands.
Schedule Pleasure, Not Pressure
- Broaden scheduling sex to "connected pleasure time" to reduce pressure and increase negotiation.
- Have a "plan B" for connection activities when sex isn't desired.
Talk Sex Motivations Openly
- Discuss motivations for sex with your partner to understand differing desires.
- Recognize that partners might want sex for different reasons such as stress relief or emotional connection.
