
That Relationship Show Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex (but were afraid to ask)
May 26, 2019
Join Dr. Barry McCarthy, a seasoned clinical psychologist and sexuality expert, as he delves into the intricacies of sexual relationships. He shares why sex should be viewed as a team sport and how desire is often more important than orgasm. Discover the importance of anticipation and unpredictability in rekindling desire, as well as his insights on sexual satisfaction in later life. Barry emphasizes owning one's sexual voice and provides practical tips on maintaining intimacy, tackling issues like erectile dysfunction, and recovering from sexual trauma.
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The Paradoxical Power Of Sex
- Sex plays a small positive role when healthy but a huge negative role when avoided or conflictual.
- Barry McCarthy: when couples break up in the first five years the issue is often sex.
Desire Needs Surprise And Choice
- Desire depends on anticipation, choice, and some unpredictability rather than just arousal or orgasm.
- Routine, mechanical sex inhibits desire and de-eroticizes a partner.
Show-Up Versus Grown-Up Erections
- A client said younger men had 'show-up erections' and older men have 'grown-up erections.'
- The client felt valued because her partner needed her for his mature sexual experience.








